As a young man, I grew up battling with Anger and Hot temper. So I am more than willing to share with us how I finally overcame the menace of anger.
“Getting Angry is like setting a whole mansion ablaze in pursuit of small rats, forgetting the chances that the rats may escape and we end up losing our valuables”… SmartChuks.
Hello Everybody, it’s still your favorite writer and life coach, AMAECHI CHUKWUMA. Welcome to the second edition of SHARING LIFE EXPERIENCES/REALITIES WITH SMARTCHUKS. Here I’ll be sharing with you the intricacy of Life as we see it today, based on my observation of Events happening in our World today and from my personal point of view/experiences. Of course, feel free to agree or disagree with me via your feedbacks. I’m good at talking but I’m also good at listening. Here’s to happy reading…
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Please read this short story patiently…
My driver and I were on our way to a conference at Tombia Street New GRA, Port Harcourt (PH) sometimes in 2019, when at the popular Rumuola bus-stop, a commercial bus driver slightly hit our car.
Impulsively and with rage, my driver jumped out of the car to confront the other driver, who had stopped a few meters in front to pick up more passengers. My driver screamed at him and threatened that he will not move. At this time, we had created a scene, yet the man didn’t even recognize our presence, let alone apologize. Instead, he unleashed unprintable insults and even attempted to beat my driver up.
Of course, in this scenario, most times the passengers will always support the driver, so you can imagine the quantum of insults and embarrassment we got in less than 5 minutes that the incident lasted.
But that wasn’t all. When we got back to our car, we met no valuables left. The car had literally been swept by street boys. It was then we realized how emotionally foolish we were. Leaving the car at the bus stop with the engine still running, doors unlocked!! In fact, someone could have driven it away. Guess what? We lost a new phone, laptop, cash… name it, and we missed the conference too.
The experience was so difficult to forget. Damage that should have cost us just about 5k to fix. I know, some of you will say we were not smart enough. Perhaps yes! But here is the point, and this summarizes the moral of this story.
Any time you react to provocation based on impulse, the outcome will always end in regret, no matter how smart you are. In emotional intelligence, it is called Emotional Hijack. Sometimes, the consequence could be lethal and irreversible.
About 2 years ago, a responsible gentleman in Lagos argued over N50 balance with an Ikeja-bound bus conductor and died in the process. Anytime you suffer Emotional Hijack, you regret.
The question is, how do you react when provoked? What words come out of your mouth when offended by Colleagues, Okada men, Danfo drivers, Business partners, relatives, etc.? Do you express or explode? Do you respond or react? Words sometimes could be more hurtful than injuries.
Now here is the good news, everyone has an imaginary Mental Pause Button. Once provoked, press the mental pause button in your mind. Do not talk or react for 6 seconds. At that point, take a deep breath and by the time you breathe out, the action you will take will be more rational and will not lead to regret.
The 6 seconds pause may just be the difference between death or life, friendship or enmity, peace or war. Emotions are subject to individuals’ control Learn to manage your mental pause button, choose emotional intelligence. Don’t allow one moment of ‘madness’ to destroy your day or even your future!
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