Dating can be hard, especially when you go on the initial date with a guy. There’s so much pressure. Will it be fun? Will you like him? Will he like you? What will happen next? There are so many things going on in your head before you even meet up, and then once you do, the questions don’t stop sometimes they even intensify. We know dating is no easy task, but that doesn’t mean it has to be a complete bummer either. You want to stand out from the rest, right? Well, there are plenty of ways you can do that and go home feeling like you did the best you could. The first date is a big one. This is the time when you both are feeling each other out, deciding if you want to pursue onto the next round or not. If you are concerned about what to do or say on the first date, here are some helpful hints that will have him thinking about you well after the day is over?
Dress appropriately for the occasion: Pick clothing that is going to make you feel comfortable. If you are going to a nice restaurant in the city, your fancy clothes are perfect. For most activities, though, jeans and a form of fitting shirt are all you need. You don’t have to try hard to be stylish or reveal lots of skin. Focus on being comfortable.
Wear clothing that displays your personality: There is no point dressing up if you hate the clothing. You will have a much better date when you wear what you love. Look for something that represents who you are as a person, such as particular colors or designs you enjoy. Try selecting a favorite outfit that accentuates your best features.You can also get your hair and nails done. It’s not necessary, but if it helps you feel confident, it’s worth it.
Be confident: A confident woman is a sexy woman. So instead of putting your head down and being shy let your true colors show. Embrace who you are and what you enjoy doing. Because if he doesn’t like it, then you should not date him in the first place. Be the confident girl you know you can be. Ask him questions, talk to him like you will speak to anyone else, he is not much different than your kid brother, right? And just be you. When a woman knows who she is and is not afraid to put it out there and what others might think of her, she is one to remember. And trust me; he will remember you for that. Well after the day, he will remember how you didn’t bash the other women in the restaurant because you are not that self-conscious, or how you playfully teased him for not knowing what “Making a Murderer” is.
Get to know him: It is so important to get to know the guy
you are on a date with. Like really get to know him. Not just the first layer, but the deeper ones. What makes him tick? What is he passionate about? What is he looking for in life? In his next relationship? Get to know him and don’t rush it. Men can be very secretive when it comes to dating. They right away think that the woman is looking for something more than just a cup of coffee which you might be, but don’t let him know that just yet and then they like to bolt. They want to feel you out first before they move onto the next level. They are not sure if you are someone they want to spend more time with you because they don’t know you. Let them get to know you as well.
Limit your drinking: We know sometimes our nerves can cause us to drink more than usual, we totally understand that. And on a date when you are already so nervous and the drinks are pouring, it is hard not to go crazy. However, try to refrain from taking down that third drink. You want to appear focused, confident, and not completely focused. No guy wants to think you can’t handle your booze. And no guys wants to think about having you throw up all over him. He wants a girl who knows her limits and is not afraid to pass on another glass of wine when needed. Save the getting sloshed nights when you are officially dating. Right now you are looking to keep your head clear. You do not want to say the wrong things or act like complete loose cannon. So be smart with your drinking and the date will go smoothly.
Talk about something you are good at: When he asks you what do you like to do when you are not at work, tell him? It’s nice that he wants to know more about you so share this information with him. After all, the whole point of a first date is to learn more about the other person. Really tell him what makes you excited about life. Do you work with animals at the local shelter on your free time? Do you babysit your young cousin over the weekends because you love how she makes you feel like a kid again? Are you always caught with your head in a book at night? Whatever it is that makes you tick, talk about it. Show this guy that you have interests and that you take them seriously. And if it’s not a hobby, why not talk about something you’re really good at? Like break dancing or speaking another language. This will open up to plenty of other fun conversation and you appear open and honest, which is a very attractive trait in a mate.
Laugh:Laughter is the best medicine for just about everything, right? When you laugh you are in a good mood, and when you are in a good mood, chances are the person with you is in a good one as well. Tell a silly joke or talk about something awkward but funny that has recently happened to you. The guy will get a kick out of you and your ability to laugh things off. It’s super attractive when a woman can do something and laugh at herself for it. If you want to make a lasting impression with this new guy, let out a few laughs every now and then. But don’t fake them. They need to be authentic just like you. Laugh when appropriate, not when you think he wants you to. If he says something truly funny, awesome. Laugh it up. But if what he says is kind of lame or just strange, you better take a pass.
Don’t b to needy: Sure, men like to feel needed when they are in a relationship, but they don’t want their women to be super needy. It’s not attractive for anyone. You come out looking ridiculous like you can’t live a normal life without the guy, guess what, you totally can and he just thinks you are kind of crazy. On a first date, it’s best to be yourself and just relax. Don’t give him those eyes like you are already in love. You don’t even know him yet. He doesn’t want to think you fall in love like this for every guy you meet. So instead, talk about what you like to do on your own. What hobbies you are interested in, what volunteer work that is important to you. Show him you have a thriving life right now without him, and if he was in your life, he will only be a nice added bonus.
Be carefree: A lot of times, women really put too much pressure on themselves and the guy when they go out on a date. They are constantly thinking, “What if?” What if he’s the one? What if he’s the guy I have been waiting for all my of life? Stop with the ifs. A guy might not hear you asking these questions to yourself, but he can totally see you are distracted in your own head. Not exactly a turn on. So instead, just be carefree. The next time you go on a first date, relax and take a breath. Who cares if this one doesn’t work out? Who cares if he’s not the one you have been dreaming about? At least now you know and can move on. Take some of the pressure off yourself and the guy, and you’ll be surprised at how much more fun you might have.
Show you have more than one gear: If you want to keep him interested, you need to show many sides to your personality.Mix up the kinds of dates you have. Go for cocktails one night, then do something cultural like visiting a gallery on the next date. Or have a day just chilling and doing some work together, then go and do something active next time.The more you vary it up, the more a man sees that you’re a woman who he can do lots of different things with. When men think about what they want in a girlfriend, they picture a woman who can fit into many situations: she can be fun and energetic, but also chilled and relaxed; glamorous and sexy, but also casual; intelligent and thoughtful, but sometimes goofy and playful.Keep him guessing, and you will be the woman who stands out, because he won’t be able to place you in a box.
Don’t hook up with him: If you want him to think about you after your first date, do not sleep with him. Don’t ask to see his place and don’t invite him to yours. There will be no hooking up here. If you want to see him again and possibly make this thing into a relationship, you will stay as far from his apartment as possible. Get to know each other on an emotional level first, before you even think about getting physical. You want him to think that it takes some time to get with you especially when it comes to a relationship and that you are not just doing it with everybody. Because no matter what people say, if a guy wants you as his girlfriend, he doesn’t not want you to be into hooking up on the first date. He wants you to be the girl he can take home to mum, not just the girl he can take home to his bed.
Give him an impression that he is the only guy you can go out with: Sure, you are having a great time and you really actually like this guy. However, don’t let him know he’s the only one you are interested in hanging out with. No, you don’t have to talk about your active social calendar that full of Tinder dates, but you do want to come out as confident and busy. You want him to think that any other guy could be in his position at this very moment, but the fact that it’s him makes it all the better. You want him to know that since you are so amazing, he is lucky to be on this very date with you. He also doesn’t want to think you are too needy and need to be here right now with him because without him you have nobody; that’s not attractive at all. So have him thinking you are Miss Popular which you are and he will be thinking about you a lot after the first date probably jumping the chance to schedule in another date sooner rather than later.
Keep things warm but don’t overdo: It’s important to strike a balance between showing you are into him and showing you are not too needy. If he texts you after a couple of days, don’t leave it too long to respond or he will assume you are not bothered. Engage in few texts back and forth, throw in a little flirting, but don’t get sidetracked into endless conversation for hours or it will get stale and you will lose any mystery. You want to leave him a reason to get in touch again, or schedule another date to talk in person. So don’t waste all your good conversation on instant messenger. Also, you shouldn’t be afraid to text him first, don’t do it every time or it will put you in the position of always being the one chasing. Let him be the one to make first contact sometimes it will let you know if he is actually into you or not.
Build anticipation: When you are texting, talk about other fun things you will like to do together, not in a sexual way and if you do go down that route, keep it lightly suggestive, nothing too explicit by talking about activities and interests you are both passionate about you will find it easy to schedule your next date. And remember don’t let your conversations just become boring, chats about your day. Keep things fun and flirty and joke around when you talk. The most important thing is not to overthink your every move.
Let him know you had fun; Before you go home is okay to let him know you had a nice time and you look forward to spending more time with him. However, don’t make it look like you have already falling in love with him even if you have, still keep things cordial and mutual among you and let him make the first move.
These are steps to keep him interested after the first date.Use these tools to get yourself in the right mindset for being the most confident, exciting, fun version of you and you will be in the best position to make a guy want you for much more than just one night.