By: Ihenagaram Abigail C
Bestie is someone very close to you, even more than your siblings. A bestie could be an opposite sex. A partner is a person that you are married to or having a sexual relationship with. The question here is, is it proper to keep bestie of the opposite sex when you already have a partner?
One of the major problems people are facing in their relationships is the problem of keeping bestie. Most people don’t see anything wrong, in keeping bestie and partner at the same time.
CONVINCING STATEMENTS YOUNG PEOPLE MAKE WHEN TALKING ABOUT THEIR BESTIE.
Some will say my bestie is my bestie, and my partner is my partner.
Some will even go as far as saying I feel more comfortable with my bestie than my partner.
Some may say my bestie has always been here even before my partner came into the picture
Some I don’t have any emotional feelings towards my bestie.
Some he/she is just my bestie nothing more.
Some will say, I don’t need a partner my bestie is enough.
Some will go far as, I don’t trust my partner like the way I trust my bestie.
Can we clarify this issue?
Just like I explained above, a bestie is someone very close. A partner could be your girlfriend, boyfriend, husband or wife. Back to the question above;is it proper to keep bestie of the opposite sex when you already have a partner?The answer to this question is;it is not proper.Why are you confusing yourself with both?
• If you can’t trust your partner in the first place why make her your partner?
• If you can’t feel free with your partner, why make her/him your partner?
• If you are okay with your bestie why look for a partner?
• If your bestie has already been there before your partner, why not replace your bestie with your new partner?
They problem is with you, I mean you.Your partner is supposed to be your best friend, someone you could confide in. what can your bestie do that your partner can’t do? If there is, then you are not with the right partner. If she/he can’t do it, have you try teaching her?What do you even take your partner for? Is he/her just your sex mate? Think about it.
SOLUTIONS: Make your bestie your partner.
If you are not ready to make him/her your
bestie, then you are not fully ready to build
a strong and lasting relationship. Every partner
is worthy to be a bestie. Why not change your mind set.
Make your relationship/marriage work today.